Thursday, May 12, 2011

bringing sexy back this summer!

all right WIVES!! i'm calling you out! it's time to put our marriages on the FRONT burners!


i'm doing a book club- 'bringing sexy back this summer!' (thanks jenny for the name!)- with this book:

it's 'Sheet Music...Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage' by Dr. Kevin Leman.
marriage is on my heart lately. i'm hearing about more hurting marriages than healthy marriages. i'm hearing women that are hurting...and i'm sure there are men hurting. i'm hearing 'we just exist in the same house'. i'm hearing men that are done and filing for divorce. i'm hearing women that are done and filing for divorce. sigh...


so when i'm hearing a lot of the same things...it's time for me to make a move. i told heath i'm not doing my part if i'm not sharing with as many wives as possible how stinky marriage can be sometimes and how wonderful it can be sometimes.


let's start a new trend! marriages that are fulfilling. marriages that are more health than hurt. doesn't that sound fresh?! don't you want some of that?!


SOOO...we are going to open up the communication on sex. that's right...i said it. S-E-X. i know this is a tender area for some. and it will be treated as such. but sex is also fun and beautiful in marriage. a quote from sheet music...'sex is about the quality of your entire love life, not just the alignment of your bodies.' (emphasis added)


ok. so here's what's happening. whether you are saying:


'my marriage is on the rocks'. or 'my marriage is "eh"..ho hum'. or 'my marriage rocks!'.


the girls are getting together!!!


here's the 4.1.1.


*we will be getting together every other wednesday starting june 8th. this is a laid back summer book club so sign up even if you can only come to a couple. the dates are: june 8th, june 22nd, july 6th, july 20th, august 3rd, august 17th.


*we will be chatting it up from 6:30-7:30


*we'll meet at my house, parks, or if there is anyone else that wants to offer their yard and firepit (wink).


*you must be a wife. that is the only requirement. doesn't matter how short or long you have been married. the more variety, the better.


*you must sign up via comment here, facebook, facebook message or text me. you must sign up by MAY 2Oth.


*i also need to know if you will be getting the book yourself (amazon.com and halfpricebooks.com are good prices) OR you want me to order it for you through our local bookstore-Hope Crossing.


i'm just going to end on a thought with how differently men and women are created.


*men want to have sex TO fix things. women want to fix things BEFORE they have sex.


o! how true this is! how different we are from our hubbies. BUT we, as husbands and wives, can make beautiful harmonized music together!


fa la la laaaaaaa!

Monday, May 9, 2011

a day-after-mother's-day TREAT

i love this devo book!!!



it is jen hatmaker's 'out of the spin cycle...devotions to lighten your motherload'.


i cannot say enough wonderful things about it or share it with enough mommas! it is serious good. i laugh. i cry. it hits home with so many of my own stories.


today i was reminded and wanted to share this one:


You want to be the mom of your kids' dreams? Want to give them security, health, stability, and happiness? Love your husband. Love him so much it's almost embarrassing. Kiss him, hug him, talk about him to your kids like your heart would expire without him. Refuse to let issues fester until you blow like Mount Vesuvius and char everyone. Have sex with him (this alone would solve most of his problems). Tell your children their daddy is a hero and they're the luckiest kids to belong to him. Be his fan. The best gift for your kids is parents who are crazy for each other. (Did I mention have sex with him?). Love each other well, and your house will stand, sweet friend.


i know mother's day is a day where we either love our husbands more because of special attention we got OR we want to wring their necks because we didn't get any special attention at all.


i say 'choose LOVE' today. maybe even....gasp!....have sex with him! (little sidenote...i have more blogs about this coming my fellow WIVES...stay tuned!)


whether you had a wonderful mother's day or a sucky one...treat yourself to this book. treat your husband to some love. and treat your kids to a happy mom and dad.